Some complaints

Those people who know me fairy well know that I think a lot. Sometimes too much for my own good, sometimes just because. I have my reasons, it works and I find that I am an intelligent person who knows what she is doing regardless of what it seems on the outside.

One of the things I have been thinking about is what people ask you about. Now, when I was graduating college, everyone kept asking what're you going to do now and then would have to give them this whole long speil. (sp?) Well, now that I have a job and I'm in Korea they need to come up with some other question to ask me. Of course, it becomes the question of..are you seeing anyone, do you have a boyfriend, and any variation of the question that you can find. I understand that people want to know about the events going in my life. However, if people know me..they know that I have never and will never judge my life about whether or not I'm in a relationship. I've always found I like myself better outside of relationships anyway. But to ask that question constantly. And it's not just people who know me. It's my students always asking. I've been taking Korean lessons witha friend and the first lesson he was going to try to teach me how to describe what kind of a guy I was looking for. This was listed under BASIC conversation. What? I would never answer that question to anyone and certainly not to someone I'm meeting for the first time. What does it matter anyway? People need to stop defining how well a persons life is going by if they're with someone. I think it's downright annoying and degrading.

Another thing I find annoying is the whether people are worth you or not. I've been told ths by so many people and different contexts. But I have never ever believed in judging worthiness. Who are you to say that you are that much better than me? Or me to say that about someone else? I think worthiness is just a big piece of crap (for lack of a better description). People should just be friends or don't be friends..plain and simple. But don't give some lame reason sch as he's not worth it or I can do better. People are all people. We all have flaws...we all make mistakes and I'm sure most of us have at some point in our lives been "not worth it" for something or somebody.

Finally, it drives me crazy when people feel the need to prove themselves by what they say. For example, guys will talk to you and they want to know about other guys. Then they feel the need to say "I'm better than that." Well, I want to say right back to them "No. You're not." If you need to say things to show that it is true, than chances are it's not true.Another one people say a lot is I don't do that because I'm mature. if you were mature, I would notice without you telling me that. I know sometimes I personally act like a goofball, but when it comes down to it I do what I need to do and then just have fun. But by saying that you're mature to people constantly, it seems as if you think the other person is not. That sounds like real good conversation builder skills to me. It's like very simple essay writing- show it, don't tell it. But yet somehow people constantly feel the need to say things like this to get into a someones pants or make themselves feel good. I think most of the time, it just makes them look like asses.